Mozart was happily married, but his wife wasn’t.
Do you like yourself as a spouse? If yes, ask your spouse. Maybe, you are happily married, but your spouse isn’t.
Do you love yourself as a parent? If yes, ask your children. Maybe, your performance appraisal by them could be a game changer.
Do you respect yourself as a professional? If yes, ask a subordinate. Maybe, your enlightenment awaits you.
Open op, observe, absorb and shut-up.
Pause and Ponder.
A new ‘Person’ will emerge.