We think about it every day.
How will the day go? How will the week go? How will the year go?
How will the narrative of life play out?
For me, it is a 2D game between our ‘determination’ and our ‘destiny’.
Our determination refers to all that we can control and add to the narrative of our life that we wish to see unfold.
Our destiny refers to all that we cannot control but it gets added to the narrative of our life, changing it, for better or worse, whatever.
Sometimes, determination and destiny work in opposite directions with varying intensities.
Sometimes, determination and destiny push in the same direction, of course with intensities that they like.
We do not see the fruition of our efforts in situation 1 while the situation 2 surprises us because of the secret sauce created by determination and destiny together design what we cannot imagine.
So, what do we do?
Stay ‘determined’ and keep ‘showing up’ to do our part.
If our push of determination weakens when the destiny decides to push with its full force, we will regret it big time.
Hence, let’s show up each day with our determination to excel as a professional, partner, parent and person.
That’s what we can certainly do.
This astounding story of Maria Sharapova will tell you what a delightful mix of dedication and destiny can do!
Before her birth, Chernobyl disaster happened in Russia, a mere hundred km away from her parents’ home. Radiation affected every inch of life – big mushrooms, contaminated water, dying life.
Her mother conceived her and stayed for a while eating those ‘big’ mushrooms, drinking that water before they left. Maria believes that it caused her to rise to a ‘big’ 6 ft 2 inches with indomitable strength.
They moved to Sochi, a Russian town where a tennis clinic was run by Yuri Yudkin. He saw a four-year-old Maria and declared that she is different. He told her father to get out of Russia if he wanted her to become a world-class tennis player.
Yudkin sent them to a Moscow camp where Martina Navratilova had come to see the young kids play. “America is the place”, she told Maria’s father. He listened. He decided to leave.
Visas were difficult, almost impossible. The father went to the visa official.
Guess what? The officer’s daughter was eight and loved tennis.
He said, “Are you sure you want to take a six-year-old to the USA to train? Only you two can go, not the mother”.
“Yes”, the father said.
The officer issued the visa.
In between Chernobyl, Sochi, Moscow camp and Embassy, the little girl practiced every day.
Destiny is needed but determination and dedication are needed 24X7. Who knows when you meet your visa officer for the future?